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Monthly Archives: August 2007

I realize it was a long time ago but I remember the elementary and high schools I attended had a separate gymnasium and auditorium.  The gymnasium was for athletic events – basketball, volleyball, rope climbing, wrestling, etc.  The auditorium was for the performing arts – plays, musicals, etc.  Occasionally the auditorium was used for school wide assemblies, pep rallies, etc.   As I walk in many of the schools in West County St. Louis I notice that the gymnasium serves double duty.   It is used for athletic events but it also serves as the place where musicals and assemblies are held.  Yet the acoustics are awful in these gymnasiums.  Of course, the acoustics would be awful in a gym because a gym was not built for this purpose.  One middle school has a small obscure stage in the cateferia.  I know my survey is quite small but I just wonder – with gymnasiums out-numbering auditoriums in many of the schools, does that send a subtle message to students: athletics are more important than the arts? 


Paradox. It’s a paradox: I have ‘more time’ to blog but can’t find the time to do it.   Go figure.

Grudgingly. People grudgingly go to work.  However, bills makes us overcome this attitude of very quickly.   People grudgingly give to charities but often feel better afterwards.  My wife grudgingly goes to our son’s sporting events even though she is not a sports fan.  Grandchildren grudgingly visit their grandparents.  People grudgingly attend afternoon church events but often get something out of it.  People grudgingly do things that are good and often have to put on a ‘good face’ to do it.  I grudgingly visit the elderly in nursing homes because some places can be so depressing yet I am often encouraged and the patient is certainly encouraged.  But all this seems so hyprocritical or seems like pretending.  However, C. S. Lewis helps here when he talks doing things under pretense.  He writes:

 “There is a bad kind, where the pretense is there instead of the real thing; as when a man pretends he is going to help you instead of really helping you. But there is also a good kind, where the pretense leads up to the real thing. When you are not feeling particularly friendly but know you ought to be, the best thing you can do, very often, is to put on a friendly manner and behave as if you were a nicer person than you actually are. And in a few minutes, as we have all noticed, you will be really feeling friendlier than you were…Let us pretend in order to make the pretence into a reality. C. David Hess, “Hypocrisy Has Its Good Side”

If there is a good kind of pretense that leads to the real thing, maybe there is a good side to doing things grudgingly. 

  • when my kids refuse to listen to my advice; advice that is rooted in nearly 48 years of life experience and much love for them;
  • when I someone flips me off when I am driving too slow;
  • when someone who really has good intentions but still says the politically wrong thing;
  • when I see people acting or behaving in ways that are totally out of character;
  • when people think they have gained a leg up on me;
  • when I see Jim Carey or Robin Williams in a comedic movie;
  • when I must come up with another login and password; and
  • when I see or interact with two particular kids in our neighborhood.

You have seen them.  There seems to be two franchises that are competing for the number of stores erected.  Can you guess what these two franchises are?  Wal-Greens and Starbucks.  Starbucks is a dead give away but what’s going on with so many Wal-Green stores going up?